How to Make New Friends as an Adult: What Actually Worked for Me at 34
I moved to Portland at 34 for a job. I knew nobody. My college friends were scattered across three time zones. My coworkers were friendly but not friends. After six months, I realized I had not had a real conversation with anyone outside of work. I was lonely in a way I had not been since middle school. I tried the usual advice — join a club, go to meetups, be yourself — and most of it failed. But four strategies worked. Two years later, I have a solid social circle. This is what actually moved the needle. Table of…